Your Dream Life: You Might Already be Living it

That life you’ve always wanted for yourself-- you might already be living it.

I love being eager for more. I used to think it was an insatiable or ungrateful quality, “to want”. But now wanting more… more joy, more pleasure, more money, more travel, more connection, more laughter -- I’m seeing that it’s truly a golden ability to be able to dream (with contentment). I wasn’t always able to do it: dream of a big beautiful life. 

I spent the first 23 years of my life thinking I’d have an average career making just enough money to live on. I thought I’d grow up and maybe be lucky enough to find someone to at least pretend to love me while I was constantly cleaning up all my messes, avoiding DUI’s so I could continue to drive to my mediocre job, all while trying to encourage my children to live a better life than I ever could. 

My adulthood would be bleak. I accepted that.

I’m not ashamed of the things I want because the mere fact that I do want is a miracle. It’s new, magical and absolutely not to be taken for granted. Not only do I want for more but I believe it’s possible for me to create. [Not just you— you who makes it look so easy. You who would obviously be successful because you had a, b, c …] —> an excuse I would tell myself as to why I was stuck in ruts and not going anywhere with my life, from the sticky barstool.

Now that the yellow film of hangover has been rinsed from my eyes, I can see what’s possible. And my passion is helping others see what’s possible for them. We are here on this planet to play. We are here to create worlds! We have the ability to turn any desire into a real, tangible event. We are that powerful.

This morning I woke up and looked around my house. I saw my living room that has a new piece of driftwood floating above the fireplace— a nod to the California beach life I have cultivated for myself. I picked up my computer to write and felt the weight of this incredible piece of technology that allows me to do my “wonder job” from anywhere in the house, and anywhere in the world. The cool air coming from my dog’s nostrils tickled my ankles and sent an oceanic wave of comfort throughout my entire body. My friend texted me to ask if she could pick up coffee beans for me from our favorite shop in Silver Lake, just because. In that moment I realized: the life I always wanted is here. Right now. And I almost didn't even notice.

It's fun to look ahead at what we want. I love getting “turned on” by the day dream. But to stop and look at what you’ve already done? That’s essential. 

Look at what you’ve created. Remember what you dreamed of having when you were a teenager? You probably have some of that today. Take notice of that. Celebrate that. You did what you said you were going to do. Maybe not all the way, but a fraction of it, and that’s plenty for now.

I like to ask my clients what their younger self would think of them now. If your 16 year old self could see you today, what would they think? That you’re a slam piece and they can’t wait to have what you have//be who you are?? Exactly. My girl would be pumped to see me now… and also pissed as shit that she didn’t end up learning to hold her liquor. (Sorry hunni ya can’t win ‘em all).

It's healthy to daydream, plan goals, and get excited by the future. It's even healthier to turn around, look at where you came from and acknowledge what you’ve overcome and built for yourself. Look around at the life you’ve created. What’s going right? What are you proud of? What do you have that your younger self always wanted? 

Visit with that 16 year old. Tell her the dream matte mousse doesn’t match her skin tone but if it makes her happy fuck ‘em. Let her know she’s gonna be ok. And watch her face when you tell her what you’ve accomplished.